On my back? or Got my back?
I find motherhood a fairly easy choice to make.
Several mothers at school say to me that they wish they had more children like me. Most only have one, some two. They feel very constrained by society, norms, car size, house size, money and not wanting to devote that many years to rearing young children.
Some envy me, which reminds me to strive to be happier with my choice.
People envy me?
The crazy lady with a bunch of crazy kids struggling up the street with a zillion things hanging off the pram.
Ok so they pity me too.
When I realise that I will be devoting 13 years to staying at home with young children I say to people '35 is an alright age to get a career isnt it?' 'Cause thats how old I will be when I 'get back into the big bad world' so ya better watch out.
So Until then.
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Until then I can leave the house when I want, I can wear what I want. Take my lunch break when I want, Have no Boss, Have only one Co Worker (whom I happen to like) The only ladder I'm climbing is in Snakes and Ladders peoples.
I'm the boss around here.
Ok, the reality: 24 hour shifts, the minions under me like to rebel quite often, no sick leave, no holiday leave, no lunch break out of the office, stained finger marked clothes, a job that never ends.
Like I said. Easy Choice.
This week in Tribute to Mothers Day I am writing posts on Motherhood
6 comments:
Motherhood has been an easy choice for me too until recently....
As you may know, my husband has just started studying full-time at uni and will do for 4 years. We have 2 young children and the prospect of having 2 or more children within that time doesn't seem quite so easy anymore. With minimal income and the expenses increasing as the chilren get older I repentantly am beginning to think as many of your school mothers think - how will we buy a bigger car? how will we feed the mouths? and clothe everyone? my children will miss out on the joys of extra-currirular activities? what will others think of us 'abusing the government's generous payments to support ourselves'. Even as a woman of the church who knows without doubt that family is the most important thing we will ever do, and wants to be nothing more than a mother, it is sometimes hard to make the 'mother decision'.
And yet, I know there are loads of families (especially within the church) who have done it. The blessings come from our kind Heavenly Father as we put family first. But it doesn't make it any easier to cancel the gymnastics classes and say no the occasional take-away dinner we used to enjoy. The social pressures and inbuilt desires of humankind mean that I feel like a bad parent at times. But of course, I also know that those things aren't necessary to the salvation or success of a child. Just pointing out that there is that pull.
Motherhood has been an easy choice for me too until recently....
As you may know, my husband has just started studying full-time at uni and will do for 4 years. We have 2 young children and the prospect of having 2 or more children within that time doesn't seem quite so easy anymore. With minimal income and the expenses increasing as the chilren get older I repentantly am beginning to think as many of your school mothers think - how will we buy a bigger car? how will we feed the mouths? and clothe everyone? my children will miss out on the joys of extra-currirular activities? what will others think of us 'abusing the government's generous payments to support ourselves'. Even as a woman of the church who knows without doubt that family is the most important thing we will ever do, and wants to be nothing more than a mother, it is sometimes hard to make the 'mother decision'.
And yet, I know there are loads of families (especially within the church) who have done it. The blessings come from our kind Heavenly Father as we put family first. But it doesn't make it any easier to cancel the gymnastics classes and say no the occasional take-away dinner we used to enjoy. The social pressures and inbuilt desires of humankind mean that I feel like a bad parent at times. But of course, I also know that those things aren't necessary to the salvation or success of a child. Just pointing out that there is that pull.
oh and I should clarify (in case my husband reads this!) that 'or more' was never discussed. The ideal number of our family is still yet to be decided - and I agree Bobbie, you can only make that decision one baby at a time!!
It is normal for people to change their careers every 10 years.
yes whenever people ask how many kids i want or if i am having more.. i say... one at a time.. and not having any more this week!!
And Bev.. I totally feel that pull.. we are what I would consider poor.. but we make that choice! I don't mind if others dont, and if you only want 2 kids to be able to give them everything that is fine too. I have to tell myself I am giving the girls eachother. When we are gone, they will have each other. Hopefully they wont mind the missed dance lessons (that they have never asked for,, lol)
i just had a light bulb go on... one baby at a time... we planned for 4, we have 2. I'm content atm, so lets just leave it there for now. Loving the mothering blogs bobbie. your always a good read and leave me thinking and pondering for hours if not days. aren't words powerful?
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