A wooden sign I painted, on our mantle to remind me of my parenting mantra
My children always seem to come up with hairbrained ideas at such inconvient times.
Well it seems that way. I don't know why they don't do these grand schemes between the hours of 3 -5pm - the time I've scheduled it for :) Or on lazy saturday mornings.
On Sunday Night they decided they wanted to sleep outside on the deck. Just them and their matresses.
This stressed me out and the comings and goings and planning went on and on on.
I said no because it was a school night, we'll do this type of thing on the holidays, there are mosquitoes, It just didn't feel 'safe' to me to be so exposed without your parents etc etc.
Then Daddy comes home and says yes (and gets evil glare from me)
To which he reminds me of our parenting mantra
You don't have to validate the dream, just the right to dream
plus he knew they probably wouldn't last the night out there and would be tucked in their beds before long. Which happened. He was right dang it.
I have no idea where we got this quote from, but its been our mantra for many a year now. It was either from a parenting book I'd read or Dr Phil I can't quite remember. But we've often stated it to eachother. Even if I don't agree with their ideas/dreams/musings it doesn't mean that I can't support the idea behind it.
So once again I was reminded of my choices I had made long ago that I sometimes forget.
I thought last night that when it comes to parenting and being spontaineous and creating warm memories of childhood that:
Unless it will harm their physical or spiritual health, it should probably be allowed
So when K cut out a huge dragon tail using streams of paper, tape and elastic just before company arrives. Its ok.
Or this morning when 10 mins before she had to leave for school she started making a homemade ipod. It's ok.
Validate the right to dream
validate the right to dream, validate the right to dream,validate the right to dream.... (repeat after me)
Just so when she is a parent she can say to her kids
"You think you have it tough.. when we were kids we had to MAKE our own ipods.."