Friday, July 25, 2008
Being in the Moment Parenting #2
In the human dimension, you are are unquestionably superior to your child. You are bigger, stronger, know more, can do more. If that dimension is all you know, you will feel superior to your child, and you will make you child feel inferior (if only unconsiously) You may love your child, but your love will be human only, that is to say, conditional, possesive, intermittant.
Only in Being are you equal, and only when you find the formless dimension in yourself can there be true love in that relationship. The Presence inside you, the timeless I AM, recognises itself in another, and the other (the child), feels loved, that is to say recognised.
To love is to recognise yourself in another. The longing for love that is in every child is the longing to be recognised, not on the level of form, but on the level of Being. If parents honor only the human dimension of the child, but neglect Being, the child will sense that the relationship is unfulfilled, that something vital is missing and there will be a build up of pain in the child and sometimes unconscious resentment toward the parents. "Why don't you recognise me?"
When someone 'recognises' you it draws the dimension of Being more fully out - This is the love that redeems the world. Love makes the world less worldly, less dense, more transparent to the divine dimension, the light of consciousness itself.
pg 105-106 "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle