The real red faced make up free me.
Reading comments in blogs is very dangerous. I always love the ones over at cjane . I also enjoy the comments in free range kids . I spend time scrolling through the hundreds of comments.
However sometimes they weigh on me. As the ones at cjane have lately. I've mentally penned many a comment in my head. One night I couldn't sleep thinking about it.
I have found one of the hardest things of being me : a mormon or member of
The church of Jesus Christ of Latter day saints is:
trying not to judge others
or trying not to come off as judgemental or holier than thou
I like to think i'm a fairly open minded person. I help people of all nations, rich and poor. I'm friendly to the miriade of people from all nations at the girls school. I've let scores of strangers stay in my home. I've helped immigrants, chatted to the homeless who live at the local park, I hope if anyone were to ask anything of me I would be able to give it.
However I think when you live your life to a certain standard (ie I don't drink alcohol, smoke, swear, participate in any illegal activities, I believe in marriage between a man and woman, abstain from premarital sex and once married - fiedelity with marriage, give money to charity, keep the sabbath day holy which includes no shopping or extra curricular activities on sundays, dress modestly, serve others, I place an importance on motherhood and raising children and trying to be a good wife.
it can be hard not to think:
If I (who is flawed and makes mistakes) can do it, surely you can to!
This is the crux of the problem when people may feel I or those of my religion take a holier than thou stance. This is one thing I have to deal with in life. Giving love freely without judgement.
Yes I might be able to do the above things described. Others may not.
Others may even purposely choose to not.
And thats ok.
I won't change my beliefs but hopefully I can change the way others feel about me.
Charity is the pure love of Christ and one of the hardest things to achieve in life I believe.