Sunday, May 13, 2012

Mothers Day Duality

The tale of two Mothers Day:

The Snarky Mothers Day:

How can it be Mothers Day when woken up at 6am 
Children begging you to eat breakfast in bed even when it is the worst thing in the world
Forced to eat a cold breadfast that's been repeatedly touched
Copious amounts of handmade cards and presents which you are required to love and admire when perhaps you think they should be destined for the bin.
The 5 fererro rocher flowers you were given at church were eaten by said kids
Chocolates are a must give present only because the children know that they will get some
Begging children to get themselves ready for church, clean up around the place, go to bed early, ----- insert any prefered behaviour ----- as gift to you.
The holiday itself makes you depressed because it is far from the serene, kind, full of willing helpers to do your work while you laze the day away dreaming of just how perfect motherhood is. When in fact the best mothers day would be one where you are no where near your children. We do that mothering thing 365 days a year... how about a No Mothering Day...

The Sentimental Mothers Day:

Little ones climbing into bed early with squeals over making you breakfast in bed
Happy breakfast laid table sitting around it together 
Beautiful handmade cards with heart melting sentiments with ' If I could wish for just one present it would be you' 'You are the best mum in the world' 'My mum is special because she makes me my favourite chocolate and strawberry cake' (this made me laugh because 1- I didnt know they had a favourite cake and 2- I don't think I've ever cooked said cake ever) 
Presents from the heart, funny things they think you've always wanted, some surprising insightful. Handwritten signs welcoming those into our house on mothers day.
Tears shed at church from wonderful talks about motherhood
Afternoon tea shared with family.
Lots of kisses and cuddle

A child composes their own song for you and your heart melts. {to tune of this song }

I want this to be a good mothers day
I really really love you and I just want to say

I would not be here if it wasn’t for you

I really love you to
So I want you to love me as much you do

I don’t care about anything but you

I don’t want anything but love from you

If I had to choose a present it would be nothing

But to see you all the time
I want you to be happy because you’re  very lucky to have me

Please love me, please care for me,  Please care for me A lot because I love you
I want love from you, from me to you

I give you my love from me

Perhaps each Mothers Day is  a little combination of both. Too Snarky is just plain sad {and rude}. Too sentimental can feel so far removed from reality it seems a lie. Some years full on snark, some years full on sentimenal with tears and all. Some Mothers Days are hard, some easy and blissful. An emotional rollercoaster - Just like motherhood really!

As I gather my cards {to be stored in a special file I keep all my cards from my kids}
I see pure love and innocence, kindess and wanting.

The act of me as their mother will be to turn their words into actions.

Low key expectations, some food, and a little family love are keys to a successful Mothers Day in my book. Extra helpful Daddy and Kids makes a day. Don't really expect a day off.
And early bedtime certainly helps too! {please a gift you can give me.. go to bed early!}

and a Mothers Day Photoshoot. A must have.

I must have been a good mumma cause I scored lovely presents of tulips, a whisk, a large serving spoon, a smoothies cookbook, an egg timer, coloured cutting boards, mascara and a badminton set!


Anonymous said...

Nice picture....Happy Mothers Day.

SuiGeNeRiS Speaks said...

Definitely a roller coaster day!! I spent parts of the day depressed cause I felt like I had to beg "someone" to make me breakfast, my house was a mess and I wanted to clean, but then I didn't want to because it was "Mother's Day" and Michael really wouldn't let me. So grateful though he spent a lot of time cleaning and cooking a lovely dinner for us all and our guests and the children got ready for church easily AND I got a call from my ex-husband telling me thank you for looking after his babies (blow out) - you know something bizarre happens with him every time I go to the temple (I went Saturday!) ;)

Anonymous said...

Hi Bobbie,
I agree, Mother's Day can be an emotional roller coaster! I think it can be a day of pressure for women. I remember especially when I had small children, was exhausted and not particularly enjoying myself, nor achieving what I wanted or thought I wanted for myself or my children - then along came Mother's Day with the theme of mothers are great, motherhood is great, you should want nothing more for your life, you are all angels and perfect and raising your children to be stripling warriors etc etc. Tough going! Not exactly what I wanted to hear sometimes! I also feel for the women at church who are not mothers.
I'm just glad that in my ward we didn't hear from the pulpit the UNTRUE analogy of men have the priesthood, women have motherhood! (this week) Although we did hear about using a wooden spoon to discipline children! Hmmm!?
Don't mean to sound negative, I now enjoy motherhood, learn a lot from it, even helping me develop Christlike attributes! love my kids!

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